Trauma is often either too much, too soon, too fast—or too little, too late. And it’s almost always compounded by a lack of adequate support afterward. So we try to manage the overwhelm, or fill the emptiness, the best way we know how—often through intensity, distraction, or avoidance.

The human brain is especially vulnerable to trauma in early childhood. The first seven years of life are when we learn whether the world is safe, how to give and receive love, and how to regulate our emotions. But children can’t regulate on their own; they depend on caregivers for co-regulation. Without it, the nervous system develops in a state of stress, making us more susceptible to emotional instability, physical illness, addiction, and a lack of identity.

Maybe it’s because we share a language that often goes unspoken, buried under the shame that trauma brings. No one wants to tell their friends that the cupboards were bare growing up, or that they had to clean up after parents who didn’t. No one talks about the violations that came from people who were supposed to protect them. Maybe you were the kid who got teased for being “different,” or the one who was constantly reminded they were an inconvenience. Maybe, despite swearing you never would, you ended up marrying someone just like your abuser. Maybe the child you poured everything into has now turned away from you, and instead of feeling appreciated, you feel rejected.

Remember, meditation isn’t about doing it perfectly. It’s a practice of showing up and being present with yourself—because you are worth the time and intention it takes.  If Jesus himself took the time to meditate on the regular-you cant go wrong. Science has proven the numerous benefits of a regular practice over and over again. It can literally add years to your life! 

Breathwork transformed my life. It gave me a way to process trauma without having to relive it or be retraumatized by talking about it. This is why I am so passionate about this practice.

If you’re curious about exploring breathwork for yourself, I encourage you to give it a try. It’s a powerful tool for healing, self-connection, clarity, and emotional freedom.

Every time we expand, even in fear, we claim new ground, change patterns, and disrupt cycles. Life invites us daily to grow, to step into faith, and to trust in a guiding force greater than ourselves. With each step, we increase our capacity for joy, love, and freedom.

So, ask yourself: What do you want more of? The same? Or something greater?

Your joy is a threat.

Your strength, intolerable.

So they must make you smaller.

Weaker.

Less than.

They blame everyone.

Pity only themselves.

They need you to be the enemy,

so they can always be the victim.

Just like sound waves can move water or sand, frequencies shape our internal and external experiences. This is why music can stir such deep emotions. Words, thoughts, and even the way we speak to ourselves hold power.

The good news is—you can shift your frequency. Awareness is the first step. By recognizing where you are on the emotional scale, you gain the ability to move upward. Therapy is a powerful place to explore this, to process stuck emotions, and to reclaim your energy.

Boundaries are such a popular concept now, and it seems like everyone on social media is talking about having them. And they’re right; they are great to have. They actually protect the important relationships so that you don’t get to the point I was. But it’s undervalued how difficult it is to establish boundaries, much less enforce them. You need a support system to back you up and remind you of why you’re doing the whole thing. And if you don’t have that, it’s nearly impossible to get much traction.