Maybe it’s because we share a language that often goes unspoken, buried under the shame that trauma brings. No one wants to tell their friends that the cupboards were bare growing up, or that they had to clean up after parents who didn’t. No one talks about the violations that came from people who were supposed to protect them. Maybe you were the kid who got teased for being “different,” or the one who was constantly reminded they were an inconvenience. Maybe, despite swearing you never would, you ended up marrying someone just like your abuser. Maybe the child you poured everything into has now turned away from you, and instead of feeling appreciated, you feel rejected.

Remember, meditation isn’t about doing it perfectly. It’s a practice of showing up and being present with yourself—because you are worth the time and intention it takes.  If Jesus himself took the time to meditate on the regular-you cant go wrong. Science has proven the numerous benefits of a regular practice over and over again. It can literally add years to your life! 

Breathwork transformed my life. It gave me a way to process trauma without having to relive it or be retraumatized by talking about it. This is why I am so passionate about this practice.

If you’re curious about exploring breathwork for yourself, I encourage you to give it a try. It’s a powerful tool for healing, self-connection, clarity, and emotional freedom.

Every time we expand, even in fear, we claim new ground, change patterns, and disrupt cycles. Life invites us daily to grow, to step into faith, and to trust in a guiding force greater than ourselves. With each step, we increase our capacity for joy, love, and freedom.

So, ask yourself: What do you want more of? The same? Or something greater?

Your joy is a threat.

Your strength, intolerable.

So they must make you smaller.

Weaker.

Less than.

They blame everyone.

Pity only themselves.

They need you to be the enemy,

so they can always be the victim.

Just like sound waves can move water or sand, frequencies shape our internal and external experiences. This is why music can stir such deep emotions. Words, thoughts, and even the way we speak to ourselves hold power.

The good news is—you can shift your frequency. Awareness is the first step. By recognizing where you are on the emotional scale, you gain the ability to move upward. Therapy is a powerful place to explore this, to process stuck emotions, and to reclaim your energy.

Boundaries are such a popular concept now, and it seems like everyone on social media is talking about having them. And they’re right; they are great to have. They actually protect the important relationships so that you don’t get to the point I was. But it’s undervalued how difficult it is to establish boundaries, much less enforce them. You need a support system to back you up and remind you of why you’re doing the whole thing. And if you don’t have that, it’s nearly impossible to get much traction.

In a healthy family system, respect is the guiding undertone. Interactions aren’t power plays or manipulation. Individuals are free to be themselves without fear of retribution for not following along. There’s no need to keep members “close” through control because with freedom comes the desire for authentic closeness.

Sexual abuse betrays us into believing we aren’t in control, that we must abandon our intuition and sense of self in order to maintain connection. Healing from sexual abuse enables us to trust ourselves again, to advocate for what we want and deserve, and to rebuild a foundation of safety and autonomy. 

We don’t have to keep making life any harder on ourselves than it already is. I’m going to make this my challenge and maybe even make a game of it. I’m sick of feeling overwhelmed, but yet at the same time, like I’m never doing enough.

No matter your faith—or if you’re uncertain what you believe—it’s welcome here. We can unpack it together, free of judgment and without needing a polished, picture-perfect version of your spirituality.