Sexual abuse betrays us into believing we aren’t in control, that we must abandon our intuition and sense of self in order to maintain connection. Healing from sexual abuse enables us to trust ourselves again, to advocate for what we want and deserve, and to rebuild a foundation of safety and autonomy. 

We don’t have to keep making life any harder on ourselves than it already is. I’m going to make this my challenge and maybe even make a game of it. I’m sick of feeling overwhelmed, but yet at the same time, like I’m never doing enough.

No matter your faith—or if you’re uncertain what you believe—it’s welcome here. We can unpack it together, free of judgment and without needing a polished, picture-perfect version of your spirituality.

Here’s the catch: your focus determines your reality. If you spend your time gathering evidence that life is hard, unfair, or stacked against you, guess what? You’ll find it. But if you shift your focus to a narrative of possibility, growth, and empowerment, you’ll start to notice the opportunities and support that align with that mindset.

I know the fears, doubts, and feelings of despair that come with abuse. I also know that finding your way out isn’t just about leaving a harmful situation—it’s about reclaiming your sense of self, building resilience, and learning to trust your voice again.

I’m not here to tell you to try harder in 2025. If all you did was survive 2024, that’s enough.
But I also know, that if you’re reading this, it’s because you want more. You want to be thriving. It’s not too much to ask.

Disorganized attachment reflects an inner conflict—bouncing between anxious behaviors that seek closeness and avoidant behaviors that fear it. This push and pull can feel exhausting, yet strangely familiar, as it echoes the chaos of early caregiving experiences.

Avoidant attachment is a reflection of past survival strategies, not a permanent identity. With courage and the right tools, avoidants can embrace vulnerability, deepen their connections, and build secure, fulfilling relationships.

The journey to healing from anxious attachment doesn’t happen overnight, but every small step you take toward understanding your needs and nurturing yourself makes a profound difference. Even if you’ve spent a lifetime caught in patterns of anxious attachment, it’s never too late to change. You deserve the security, trust, and peace that you’ve been seeking.

Building secure attachment starts with connecting to yourself first. While we can’t change the past, we can gain insight from it, bringing it to consciousness where real change is possible.